The Boss: 12 Solid Qualities Of Good Girlfriends

What makes up a good girlfriend? How do you know when you have one? How do you become one?

1. She’s supportive: She’s a fan of all our endeavors and doesn’t delight in belittling us, mocking our efforts or generally ruining our mojo. If we feel we have a mission or calling in life, then we need someone who will help, not hinder us.

2. She’s a good person: If we can’t think of half a dozen or so reasons why this is the case then ‘Houston, we have a problem.’ She’s sexy and I want to sleep with her do not count as good reasons that she’s a good person, by  the way. Attraction and infatuation are all very good but can lead you into the trap of an ‘instantly heavy’ relationship. These rarely last.

3. She’s honest: Even when it’s not easy to hear. We’ll get along just fine with a “yes” woman…for a while. But to  build something lasting, we’ll need someone who is happy to call us on our bullshit. Also, an honest  person who is not afraid to say how they feel about things will be less likely to say stuff to please us,  and then put up with something they actually dislike — that’s the road to resentment, which can destroy relationships.

. You can bring her home to meet your mom…or anywhere else, without being in a funk that her dress, or behavior or anything else is going to  cause embarrassment. If she’s great fun for a night out, or in the bedroom, but nowhere else, then it’s a non-starter.

5. The chemistry is there: I don’t mean coke & mentos chemistry. Explosive is not what we’re after. I’m talking about sharing a sense of humor, making each other laugh, and having complimentary personalities. If this chemistry grows, not fades, then we know we’re onto a good thing.

6. The ‘ex’ factor: We all have them, but how we relate to them or describe our relationship with them says a lot about how available we are. If she’s still fighting with them, she’s probably not available, or could be demonstrating how things will end in your relationship. If she’s their best buddy, then that’s  possibly not a great sign either.

7. The three F’s: Family, friends, and faith (or lack of!) If she can’t respect these three areas of our life, then she’s not the one for us. Whatever our beliefs, she needs live with and respects them.

8. She might not think all our friends are great, but she needs to not be too selective about which of them she wants to spend time around. If she does that, she’s making it harder for us to be around them, and effectively limiting our contact with them. That rings our ‘she’s trying to change who I am’ alarm bell.

9. She gives us space…To fix cars, climb mountains, play video games, put the world to rights over beers with our friends or whatever man-crap we need to do in our free time. Crying, fighting or sulking when we choose to do  those things once in a while is not good.

10. She’s not our usual type: If we have a usual type, then we could be repeating relationship mistakes. Choosing not just the same physical type but the same toxic behavioural traits in women. The fact that things are different, and you’re a tall, quiet brunette when we have a trail of exes who are short bubbly blondes is a good indicator, rather than something to worry about.

11. She likes herself: Someone who isn’t comfortable in their own skin is holy hell to deal with. Occasional compliment fishing or looking for reassurance about something is on the normal scale. Someone looking for that stuff all the time shows no confidence and will wear out even the most patient man.

12. She forgives easily: One grudge fosters resentment, and can destroy a relationship. Many grudges are a recipe for disaster. If she shows that she bears grudges and finds it difficult to forgive and move on where exes  are concerned, with colleagues or in any area of life, then she’s not the one for us. We’re not looking  for a pushover, but someone who understands that the past is the past and can leave it where it belongs.

Thank you for reading.
Yours,
Agba-Oye

16 Comments

  1. Scarlett

    February 16, 2017 at 9:40 am

    After all these, you guys will still go out to cheat.

  2. Ele

    February 16, 2017 at 10:25 am

    daz tru

  3. Favy

    February 16, 2017 at 10:26 am

    Yeah thankx…

  4. cara

    February 16, 2017 at 10:33 am

    cool

  5. Anonymous

    February 16, 2017 at 10:36 am

    Y Nt Freedom,den U Break Our Hrt Wat Bout 12 Qualities Gals Want In Guys.

  6. gotzy

    February 16, 2017 at 10:42 am

    scarlet u dey vex ooo

  7. Mhiz Rhopheehart

    February 16, 2017 at 11:06 am

    Nice write-up, i love dis

  8. Horsfall

    February 16, 2017 at 12:51 pm

    That’s right.

  9. oyemos

    February 16, 2017 at 12:54 pm

    thats TRUE

  10. Nikky

    February 16, 2017 at 2:25 pm

    i agree with u @ scarlett, dey will neva get satisfied even if d lady posess all dis quality

  11. KingStar

    February 16, 2017 at 2:33 pm

    HMMmmm…

  12. Horsfall

    February 16, 2017 at 3:49 pm

    Who told you? Then what about those ladies that cheat, you guys should not because of gender say things favouring only a particular gender.@Nikky

  13. RadicalBoy

    February 16, 2017 at 7:57 pm

    Yah

  14. Nikky

    February 17, 2017 at 8:53 am

    i know there are some ladies dat also cheat but out of 100% of ladies dat cheat there are about 60% dat its not their fault dat its wot men did 2 dem dat turn dem 2 d cheating type, even wen day see dat d lady is showering dem with gifts nd money dey will make her their ATM, dey will be collecting money from her nd spend it on other ladies nd if such lady find out she will be heartbroken nd if she ends up having more Dan 1 lover dey will be blaming her,Although not all mens are like dat but d bad egg is more Dan d gud ones.@ Horsfall

  15. tobex

    February 17, 2017 at 11:34 am

    dats gud of u in did blog.

  16. princewhyte

    February 19, 2017 at 10:26 am

    Hmmm

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