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Please Advice! Should He Go Back To His Late Dad’s Wealthy Family After He Was Rejected As A Kid?

Posted by on September 12, 2016.

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Am not a writer and I don’t intend being one, so please just pay attention and you will definitely understand this my life story. My life is playing out before me like a nollywood movie and am so confused right now.
I finished service late last year and got a job early this year in an oil&gas marketing firm in Port Harcourt. Everything were going fine until July this year, my immediate boss called me to his office one good day and informed me that chairman(owner of the firm) would like to see me the next day, he asked me to be in the office as early as possible. Now prior to this time, I had been opportuned to see the chairman once, can’t really remember what necessitated our meeting but immediately he saw me I could see surprises written over his face. He stared at me for a while, it was as if he saw a ghost. The day we were to meet came, dressed like never before and I made sure I was smelling nice, got to the office and discovered he was already in the office. 30mins after my arrival, I was sent a message that the chairman was ready to see me,got to his office, do I need to tell you that I was scared as hell. He asked me to sit, then after staring at me for about 10 seconds, he asked me of my full name, told him, by now my armpits were already getting wet. I became apprehensive when he started asking me about my personal family background, my state of origin,local govt, grand parents and even went as far as asking me if my dad was alive. I was surprised though but in all honesty I told him everything about me. I could see a smile in his face after hearing me, he then asked me to leave that he would call me again when he needs me. 2 days later, my boss called again that Chairman was around and he wants me in his office immediately, got to his office, he was with somebody, the person sitting in his front meaning the person was backing me. I greeted him, not even minding who was with him, was probably scared of what Mr chairman wanted this time around. In a split of seconds, I saw my chairman telling the other person sitting.. “Austin see your lost brother” fellow readers, immediately this man turned to me, sitting in front of me was an advance or should I say a matured version of my humble self,though he was chubby and keeps afro, unlike myself that was still growing and also keeps low cut. He was an exact replica of me, he called me by my tribal name, now nobody aside my mom calls me by that name. He asked me to come closer, he hugged me,within a twinkling of an eye, he was shedding tears. He asked me of my mom, where have I been and all sorts of questions I can’t really remember now. I could not even answer any one of the questions, you sure know how I was feeling now, didn’t even know what waproduct on. He thanked our chairman, with the way they were joking and talking, it was obvious they were childhood friends… I was asked to sit and I immediately turned to one sort of a new born baby the way this man was talking to me, holding my hands,rubbing my hair and telling me how grandma would be so happy to see me. Didn’t even know what brought my boldness back, I immediately asked him, who are you sir and whats going on here? He paused and looked at me and told me was my late dad’s brother, he was my uncle. I stood up immediately and freed myself from his grip, dashed out of the office and headed to my house immediately without even carrying my back pack from my office since my phone was in my pocket. Called my mom and explained everything to her, she ordered that I take the next available flight back to Lagos. Was getting ready when i heard a knock on my door, my colleague in the office walked in, followed by our chairman and the ‘sudden uncle’.

MY CHILDHOOD STORY.
Let me quickly take you back to my story, I was a product of teenage pregnancy, mom was rejected by my dad’s family, she was only supported by my dad and his immediate brother, others were against my dad accepting his responsibility, even my mom’s family rejected her with the excuse that she has brought shame to the family. In all of this, my dad and his immediate brother stood by my mom, rented an apartment for her and visits her often. Long story cut short, my mom gave birth to me and her family accepted her back. According to my mom, my dad was a comfortable young man then in the early 1990s cause he was a tanker driver. Tragedy struck when I was 2months old, my dad died in an accident. My mom was left to cater for me alone, though she was being assisted by my dad’s brother. In all of this, my dad’s other siblings and parents did not one day pay my mom a visit or even asked of me. All of this was explained to me after my mom was embarrassed by my dad(step-dad) younger ones after a disagreement they had with my step-dad. I was 18 before I knew that the man I grew up with to know as my dad was not really my Dad, my siblings were surprised to also know that we don’t share the same father. My step-dad was such a nice man that I didn’t lack anything, prior to his fight with his siblings, I was regarded as the first born, he was responsible for my schooling from nursery to university level, we were nine in the family and also a one big united and happy family. Even after the fight with his siblings, nothing changed at all, aside my surname that my mom advised me to change. I started bearing my dad’s family name.

BACK TO PRESENT
now fellow blog readers, here’s the problem, my uncle (my dad immediate brother)has suddenly found me through my office and chairman, several family meeting has been held, they(my dad’s family) want me back, they said they wants me to further my academic career abroad, take full responsibility of what they didn’t do when I was kid. All they need is for my mom to forgive them, and let them have access to me when they want and also be a part of their family cause that was the promise they made to my dad a year after his demise. My mom’s family has also joined them in pleading with my mom, my mom has sworn not to forgive any of them for what they did to her when she was a teenager. All of this happened (my mom’s ill treatment happened in my mom’s village back then before she relocated to Lagos and remarried. Now my mom has threatened to disown me and lay a curse on me if I dare accept them as my uncles or aunts or have anything to do with them. They are stinkingly rich cause my dad’s immediate brother is into oil business and he has promised to sponsor my siblings (step-siblings) to university level, my step-dad has declined this offer, telling them he could take care of his family and he does not need anybody’s help.He (step-dad) has refused to say anything concerning my dilemma, he told me i was a grown man now and should take responsibility for my life and make the best decisions I feel suitable.
Fellow blog readers am at a cross road here, am confused and don’t know what to do, presently am in with an uncle (mom’s brother) my career has been haulted, am just confused and need your advises. What should I do? My mom is on my neck, same with dad’s family members. From the numerous family meetings, I got to know that am the only grand child in the family, non of my dad’s siblings has given birth despite some of them being married for up to 10years now. They are six in numbers and four are married with no kids… Am the only hope (for now) of sustaining the family name.

I just need your input, how do I come out of this?
Am a very popular commenter here, just need to share this to get unbiased public opinions.

Am in my mid twenties.

Pls help me.

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21 Responses

  1. Hmmm. Just talk to God, he alone can decide 4 u

    by Jane on Sep 12, 2016 at 7:07 pm

  2. just follow ur mum cus wen there was nofin dey did nt look 4 u den if am d one oo i will tell dem nt 2 cum again cuz had it being dey had anoda grandchild dey would nt cum in search of u so think well

    by name on Sep 12, 2016 at 7:17 pm

  3. all u need do z 2 pray

    by Anonymous on Sep 12, 2016 at 7:18 pm

  4. pray to God for guidiance

    by The Pors on Sep 12, 2016 at 7:26 pm

  5. My advice for u. Remenber things happen for porpose that is the way God want it to happen also remenber no place like home holy book of God make us to understand that if there is no sin they will be no forgiveness. And that man u called ur father wot his family take u as evinturly they found out that ur nt there blood, ur mom should forget nd forgive them: yes is somehow painful but the most inportant thing is u have found wer u came from, bros happy new family

    by Israel Victoria on Sep 12, 2016 at 7:37 pm

  6. My advice for u. Remenber things happen for porpose that is the way God want it to happen also remenber no place like home holy book of God make us to understand that if there is no sin they will be no forgiveness. And now ur father’s family want to take u, as they found out that u are there blood, ur mom should forget nd forgive them: yes is somehow painful but the most inportant thing is u have found wer u came from, bros happy new family

    by Israel Victoria on Sep 12, 2016 at 7:54 pm

  7. The bible says “The heart of the king is in the hands of the Lord, like a river He turns it to wherever He pleases”. So I will advise you to commit your mom’s heart to God so that she might find a place in her heart to forgive them, although it’s very painful and it’s not easy forgiving them, try and sit her down and make her see the reason why she need to, or you can even go with somebody she respects and can listen to. I believe there would be a positive result. It is well!

    by Victor on Sep 12, 2016 at 8:37 pm

  8. Talk to ur mom,u are d only dat can talk to her and ur step dad,U guys shld forgive and forget

    by Isoji on Sep 12, 2016 at 9:02 pm

  9. Hmmm, touching story though but I’ll say you should follow your instincts

    by Sammie on Sep 13, 2016 at 8:12 am

  10. bro talk to ur mom to forgive them even though your mothers people behave so stupid

    by david on Sep 13, 2016 at 8:44 am

  11. Sincerely speaking u guys were done really bad but jurt learn to forgive and forget and live as a big and happi family
    Good Luck

    by Anonymous on Sep 13, 2016 at 8:47 am

  12. Sincerely speaking u guys were done really bad but jurt learn to forgive and forget and live as a big and happi family
    Good Luck

    by Akinmola John on Sep 13, 2016 at 8:50 am

  13. My advice to u is dat u should no ao to calm ur mum down talk to her beg her,not bcos ur dad family are rich,but bcos u are dere child dnt no what to say dan dat

    by tolani on Sep 13, 2016 at 10:23 am

  14. u guys should just find a way 2 forgive and forget

    by inyamah joel on Sep 13, 2016 at 12:44 pm

  15. Please just talk to God about your condition and he will help you out.

    by Anonymous on Sep 13, 2016 at 2:13 pm

  16. IF U ARE WILLING 2 4GIVE DEM, PRAY 2 GOD ABOUT IT AND HE WILL SURELY SHOW U D WAY

    by Anonymous on Sep 13, 2016 at 2:53 pm

  17. PRAY TO GOD AND HE WILL GUIDE YOU

    by BOY on Sep 14, 2016 at 4:15 am

  18. hnnmmmmm don’t knw wat to say but….
    as for me maybe u should just talk to ur mom nd step dad,course u can’t make dat decision on ur own,nd u should also consider dat ur uncle,cus he was there to support ur dad wen he was struggling wit u nd ur mom

    by harmuneyemmanuel@gmail.com on Sep 14, 2016 at 1:16 pm

  19. 4give dem they r ur family.u can hv 2 families

    by If u want 2 4give dem,and pray 2 God note:every problem is a trial on Sep 15, 2016 at 7:53 pm

  20. I WILL SAY YOU SHOULD PRAY TO GOD ABOUT IT AND FOR NOW DONT TAKE ANY DECISION TILL THE TIME YOUR MUM FORGIVE THEM.SHE HAS FACED ALOT AND THAT IS WHY SHE FIND IT DIFFICULT TO FORGIVE THEM(SHE IS AN HUMAN BEING) I WILL DO THESAME IF I WERE HER BUT STILL LATER FORGIVE BECAUSE OF MY CREATOR.APART FROM THE PRAYER MAKESURE YOU EXPLAIN THINGS TO HER LET HER KNOW THAT THIS WORLD WORTH NOTHING “EVERYBODY WILL STILL LEAVE THE WORLD ” LET HER KNOW WHAT THE BIBLE SAID ABOUT FORGIVENESS”SEARH FOR VERSES” AND IT BENEFITS.I PRAY GOD HELP YOU

    by FISAYOMI AKINTUNDE on Sep 15, 2016 at 8:53 pm

  21. our lord and saviour jesus christ made a statement “father forgive them for they do not know what they are doing” now lets trace to your own case, the bible made us to understand that there are things happen to prepare us for an extraordinary service,i mean for a greater event in live. so brother this is will of God concerning your life,just lift your voice with faith and commit your present situation,then leave to act on the scene.

    by by joshua on 16, of september 2016 at 12:40am on Sep 16, 2016 at 12:38 pm

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